‘I will bless you with a future filled with hope—a future of success, not of suffering.’ Jeremiah 29:11 CEV
Here are three more helpful steps you can take:
(1) Encourage action. Sometimes we over-function in a crisis, making the needy person dependent and undermining the very self-reliance that can strengthen them. Raymond Vath says, ‘We must do for others what they cannot do for themselves, but we must not do for them what they will not do for themselves.’ Becoming proactive in a crisis arms people against despair and powerlessness. Encouraging small, manageable action steps builds emotional and spiritual muscle. Helping them evaluate their actions and validating their efforts rebuilds their confidence. When the crisis involves irreversible losses (like death or divorce), the work of getting through one day at a time and gradually adjusting to the changes is action enough.
(2) Give hope. Often there appears to be no light at the end of the tunnel along with an uneasy sense that the suffering will go on endlessly. What people need at that moment is hope. Hope brings relief based on the conviction that things will improve, and provides energy to deal with the crisis. The Bible is a book of hope. It energises us, even when we feel like, ‘This is the worst thing imaginable. It will never get better.’
(3) Do the follow-up. A crisis is seldom over in one instant. Life may seem to soon return to normal, but in truth there may be episodes of relapse into sadness, helplessness, or loneliness. Your words may bring comfort and hope, but it’s your ongoing interest that helps people to maintain their faith and progress!
SoulFood: Exo 20:14, Pro 6:23–35, Matt 5:27–28, John 8:1–11
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